I think that if writing a letter will help you get out everything you need to say, then do it. I know I get all jumbled sometimes so that I can get everything out quickly. So I tend to write letters on things like that or anything I get emotional about. Everything will work out. :)
I hate getting emotional and I cried writing my letter last night. I think the letter, for me, is the best way to go :) thank you!
It's hard to feel like your parents are disappointed or don't accept you. I'm in a heterosexual relationship and my parents have trouble with it, they may be more accepting, but to a degree I know how much it hurts. Whatever you do, Jess will love you just the same, and that's what you have to keep as your focus. You are an amazing lady with a lot of love, and whatever you choose to do or however he responds, I know that eventually it's going to work out for the best. :)
You guys are amazing :) thank you do much for your feedback!
When I came out to my parents it was different for each one. I called my mom on the phone and I told my dad in person. I think that you should tell them however is better for you. Your parents love you. No matter what has happened in the past, now, or in the future. He is your dad. You just need to explain to him that you love your girlfriend, and that she makes you happy. You being happy is all that should really matter. Even if your dad isn't understanding at first, he will come around.
I've been going through your blog for the past few days, and came across your post about quitting smoking cigarettes and never saw another update on it. Are you still smoking or did you manage to kick cigarettes in the ass? Did you go cold turkey? I really need to get my shit together.
I did!! I smoked alot from about 18-25.
I even smoked when I first started dating @thecityhorse. But due to her history w cancer, I felt insanely awful smoking around her.
So one day I just decided to quit and I haven’t smoked since. It was so easy for me I have no idea why.
Good luck w trying! It’s not a hard as people make it out to be! Lemme know how it goes. Best of luck!
I have a friend who came out to her uber conservative dad in a letter and it worked out wonderfully. Everyone is different, but I think what everyone has in common is that it takes time to accept it. It sounds like it wouldn't make a huge difference in your relationship, anyway, but I can understand how you're still worried. It sounds like you're uncomfortable not being totally honest about it, and in the end it's about what's going to make you and your lady happy. :)
in general, the best bet is just to come out quickly and to do it in any way you feel comfortable. my gf was so nervous about coming out to her Catholic mom - she had panic attacks and insomnia for at least three weeks. her mom was great about it - a little confused, but very supportive. you honestly never know how it's going to go - it could be great, it could be really tough, but generally it's best to just do it and take the chance.
Now that my after work headache is subsiding…I would like to take a minute and be for real. None of my usual “Callie and Arizona” gifs and posts, no more pictures of our stupid cats being stupid haha
I have GOT to come out to my Dad…I have to. I cant put it off anymore and Im SO scared. Every time I think about it I get an insane sinking feeling in my chest and I immediately think of something else.
But lately, I have been noticing a shit ton of “so and so is now engaged to this other person” and I think 1. Ill totally never be able to be engaged and that sucks and 2. Since Im with the person I know I want to be with forever…My dad should know.
I just dont know how to go about it…I CANT tell him in person. But Im not going to tell him over the phone either :/ I thought about writing a letter. Actually WRITING one, not typing one or sending an email. I think its the easiest way for ME but is it for them? Id be telling my dad and my step mom, and Id let them make the decision whether or not they want to tell my 16 year old brother and 13 year old sister.
I have NO idea why Im making this such an insane deal in my head…I barely see or talk to them. I see them maybe once or twice a year. I should talk to them more…I know why I dont. And its bc I cant be myself and tell him things about my life.
I truly think that if I came out, and they accepted it, that I would have an INFINITELY closer relationship with them. But I cant get over this terrible feeling that they might NOT accept it…and then what? Nothing would really change bc I barely see them anyways…but I think knowing that my dad didnt accept me would totally crush me.
ANYWAYS…does anyone have any advice? What are your thoughts on me coming out to him in one long, meaningful letter?